DISCLAIMER: What you are about to read has ZERO, nada, nothing… zulch… zip… to do with “looking good naked” (sorta’) So if you’re involved with Palangi Kickboxing solely for “outward” beauty… well… that’s probably the only thing you’ll ever get from the training… and you might not even get that.. until you “get this”. However, on a lighter note, if you’re open for a little mind-stuff this weekend, then I applaud you and I say “keep reading” : )

Here goes:

For the longest time, I’ve resented people who speak of “success secrets”…. and all of that baloney.

First of all, it kinda creeps me out…. Second, it makes me put up my guard… and third, it feels like they’re insulting my intelligence or trying to sell me something I don’t need.

However, I recently re-traced my steps about this small, but quite uncommon…. “common denominator.”

It’s what successful people do (whatever that means to you) and it’s a critical success factor that may very well be the “X-Factor” if you will.

I see it especially in those who are:

A) Really, really, really FIT & HEALTHY…. and/or….

B) Really, really, really HAPPY!

And now I’m convinced that THIS IS IT.

Coolest part is…. it’s simple…. and it’s FREE!

…..BUT ONLY IF YOU “BUY IT”, (mentally, that is.)

Here’s the short of it:

This “discovery”, happened as a quick-response to an email I received from one of my top students.  She’s a 23 year old intellectual woman who happens to be having her own revelations while traveling about overseas.

In a nutshell, we’re keeping in touch, and she send a simple, “Hey sir, how’s it going.” type of email.

My response was, “Actually… Life is amazing!”

She replied,  “Wow, that’s cool, not many people can say that……  Its gonna be part of my new years resolution- for every complaint I make, I have to say 2 positive things!”

And it hit me…

Now, normally, I’m a long winded SOB… but in one felt swoop I replied to her comment ..

I blurted:

Make two “positive” comments for every complaint?

That’s too much accounting!

Just divorce yourself from all outcomes!! : )

Focus ONLY on ACTIONS!

We CAN NOT control results… only OUR ACTIONS.

When you focus on “results”, you will unconsciously second-guess actions that are actually positive and beneficial to you… next thing you know, you won’t “act” like you should.

Make your resolve, this… “I will not complain.”

Now, you no longer have to find positive things to say, or think about!

Nothing’s good… nothing’s bad… everything just “is”.

Whenever you experience “happiness”… you are doing exactly the above.

Whenever you experience “non-happiness” you are focused solely on outcomes. Yours.  And others’.

Focus on ACTIONS. YOUR ACTIONS. and most importantly [here's the four magic words]

Divorce Yourself From “Results”

And when you do… your new results will amaze you!

Now, I know Anchul was only making some small talk with me, and I was by no means being critical with the banter up above about  “that’s too much accounting” etc.  She”s very sharp thinker and sort of the co-creator of the above by helping me to detect the whole  “focus only on your actions” shtick. (Thanks Anchul, get back here soon, man!)

But have you ever noticed that when we focus only on “results” we often stop paying attention to the little, almost mundane but necessary “actions,” that, when done…. day after day after day…. Take us to the result we want?

(I’d also like to publicly thank Anthony Iufredo for being the fertilizer of this concept and for drawing the above message out of me; giving me the base concept that’s led to DIVORCE YOURSELF FROM RESULTS, and for helping me re-shape it over the past two weeks, while paying strict “attention” to my past and current successes. I love you bro. : )